& A: What is a Purity Girl?
Q: What is a purity girl?
A: A purity girl is someone who has promised God
that she will try to keep sin out of her life.
Q: But, wait a minute…doesn't Roman
3:23 say that ALL have sinned and come short of God's glory?
A: Yes! It also says that "There is none righteous, no,
not one," (Romans 3:10).
Q: Are you telling me that a purity
girl is trying to do the impossible?
A: In a way, she is…but don't forget that "with God all
things are possible" (Matthew 19:26)! Actually, a purity girl
knows that she'll never be perfect until she reaches heaven, but
she also knows that if she becomes comfortable with sin; allowing
"little" sins to take root in her life, those sins will gradually
lead to "big" sins. Not only that, but if a Christian girl allows
certain habitual, repetitive sins to grow for years, she may struggle
with those sins throughout her entire lifetime.
Q: I've heard people talking about
salvation or being "saved;" is that the same as being a purity
A: Many girls think that if they're saved and attending church,
that's all they need to be doing for now. Later, after becoming
an adult, they plan to give their whole selves to God--body, mind
and spirit. This type of surface Christianity is not what it means
to be a purity girl.
Q: Why on earth would I want to
make more rules for myself when the adults seem to be so good
at making rules for me?
A: Why? Because adults can only make rules that enforce
outward conformity to God's standards. A young person can
appear to follow every rule of her church and her parents and
still have a heart that is spiritually dead. Only you can
decide if you truly want to yield your heart and life to God…only
you can know if you are truly fellowshipping with Him each
day…only you can keep sin from blocking the power lines
that connect you to God, allowing His sweet Holy Spirit to flow
Q: That sounds great. But what does
it look like to live out this kind of commitment?
A: Picture this: the heart of every girl is like a hidden
garden. Only the girl and God can see what's in her garden, but
if we could visit the heart gardens of an unsaved girl, Christian
girl, and a purity girl, here's what we'd find:
The heart garden of the unsaved
girl is doomed from the start. You see, it's totally shaded because
this girl has never allowed the light of God's only Son to shine
into her heart. Also, this girl's garden is never, or hardly ever,
rained on by the water of God's Word. In most cases, this garden
may go completely unattended, with "sin weeds" randomly
springing up all over--but even if this girl tries to plant
orderly rows of flowers and vegetables in her garden, she won't
ever produce much fruit without the "Sonshine" and the
water of God's Word raining in needed nutrition.
Next, let's visit the heart garden
of the average Christian girl. This garden is planted in a sunny
spot, but in many cases the "Son" is partially or completely blocked
by the canopy of disinterest. In other cases, a very large weed
of sin may be partially shading areas of the garden. This garden
gets rained on two to three times per week: Sunday morning, Sunday
evening, and Wednesday night (unless the girl is passing notes
or daydreaming during church, that is). Weeding takes place once
or twice a year, at youth camp or teen revival--other than that,
the garden is rarely observed or attended to. As a result, the
small flowers, fruit and vegetable plants spring up side by side
with the weeds. Often the good plants get choked out as
the weeds' roots spread and take hold under ground. Others don't
see much good fruit yielded from this garden--mostly weed seeds
blowing out and spreading to the gardens of her friends.
Unlike the two unkept gardens we
just visited, the heart garden of the purity girl is visited each
day during her daily quiet time. She checks to be sure that nothing
is blocking the Son's light from giving power to her precious
plants, and she brings along her watering can, sprinkling in God's
Word and allowing it to soak deep into her heart. She carefully
cultivates the soil, turning and loosening it to be sure it doesn't
become hardened and resistant to her daily weeding. Since she
is a young gardener, she has little knowledge of what baby weeds
and baby vegetables look like, so she prays each day, asking the
Holy Spirit to guide her and show her any baby weeds that may
have recently sprung up--then she yanks them out mercilessly before
they have a chance to develop a deep root.
As for fruit, the people around
this girl can clearly see the fruits of the Spirit that are yielded
from this garden--fruits like love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness,
goodness, faith, meekness, and self-control. As for weeds, she
may have a couple that have large underground roots, but she pulls
them out each time they resurface, praying that she will not be
the cause of weeds spreading to those around her. She doesn't
let herself get discouraged, and she doesn't give up, even though
the weeds may come so easily, and the good plants may require
so much attention and care. This is the heart of a purity girl--a
heart totally yielded to the will of the heavenly Father.
Remember how God loved to visit
Adam and Eve's garden during the cool of the day? They enjoyed
sweet, close fellowship with God until the day they allowed sin
to take root in their garden--on that day, they hid from God when
He came. That's because unforgiven sin produces guilt, and guilt
breaks our fellowship with God. Purity girls enjoy freedom from
guilt and their heart garden is a haven for fellowship with their
Father. As Jesus said, "Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they shall see God," Matthew 5:8.
Q: I like the sound of giving my heart to God completely,
and something within me is telling me that I'm ready to become
a purity girl. But what if I can't?
A: I hear you, and I feel the same way! Just don't let
that stop you from what the Holy Spirit is telling you to do.
Remember, man looks on the outward appearance, but God sees the
heart. He is honored by the fact that your heart desires Him,
that deep down you want to please Him above all. Like a father
watching his toddler trying to learn to tie his shoes for the
first time, our Father doesn't expect perfection. He just wants
to see you trying to be like your Daddy. "For a just man falleth
seven times and riseth up again…" Proverbs 24:16. It's kind of
a goofy analogy, but when you (the toddler) tie the stinkin' shoestrings
too loose and you trip on 'em and fall, your Daddy will be there
to pick you up, and love you up, and set you on your feet again.
Q: Ok! Count me in…what's next?
A: Great! Please continue to the next page, "Purity Starts
Here." In it, I'll make sure that you have a firm foundation to
stand upon when the storms of life try to knock your feet from
under you. When you've read that, you'll be ready to move on to
"Radical Purity." This link directs you to an interactive Bible
study that adds knowledge to the foundation and desire that you've
already established. At the end of the Bible study, you'll have
a chance to pray the purity pledge and email me to become an official
member of this site. You can be included on the "wall of
fame" on the Purity Girls
page. Then, add to your purity IQ by reading the topical Bible
studies and short Christian fiction to be found on the Total
"Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun
a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:"