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Purity in Dating & Marriage


"A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones."
Proverbs 12:4

     Imagine that you are a about to become a world-famous soccer player. You 've played soccer since the age of three, practicing for hours each day. The star of your high school team, you were offered a full athletic scholarship to play for your favorite university. Now, after just one year on that team, you've been recruited by the United States Olympic Committe to play in the upcoming Olympic games! Completely psyched, you arrive for training and head to the field to meet the rest of the women's soccer team.
     Oddly enough, the locker room is empty, but you quickly suit up, supposing that you are the first to arrive. As you exit the locker room, you bump into your new head coach. "I'm so glad you're here," she greets you. "All our hopes are pinned on you to win us a gold medal this year."
     Impressed that the coach has obviously rated you the best player on the team, you modestly reply that if everyone quickly learns to cooperate with and support one another, a gold medal is defintely within reach. "When will I get to meet the rest of the team?" you ask.
     The coach looks surprised. "No, you don't understand," she answers. "We heard about what a great player you are, so we didn't bother asking anyone else this year--you are the team!"
     Suddenly your chances of success wouldn't be looking so good, would they?
     Well, just as a sports team is needed to win at soccer, a marriage team is designed to build your success in the game of life. God set it up that way back in the garden of Eden, when he saw that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone. Maybe he saw that Adam was lonely, or maybe he wasn't impressed with Adam's solo creativity in naming all the animals, but God decided that Adam needed a wife--so he created Eve.
     Adam was estatic until the day that Eve said, "This fruit was SO tempting, but I just couldn't eat another, Adam, you finish it." And in that moment, as the above verse puts it, Eve became a wife "that maketh ashamed" (Proverbs 12:4).
     Stink! Like a loving husband, Adam listened to his wife's input, even tried things her way--and did that ever backfire. Suddenly his fellowship with God was broken, animals killed, weeds grown, and he and Eve were homeless. Because sin had entered the world, things just continued to go from from bad to worse, leading up to their first-born son later murdering his younger brother!
     We don't want to be like Eve--the kind of teammate that brings our team down--and we don't want to marry the kind of guy who will bring us down, but how can we be the "crown of glory" kind of woman? The answer to this question and all others lies in our heart. "Out of (the heart) are the issues of life,"according to Proverbs 4:23.
     If God doesn't have your heart, take time to check out the links on the right.. They'll explain what it means to be a purity girl, how to get started and how to grow with those of us who have already joined another kind of team--the purity team. If you are already a purity girl, then take a moment to think about all of the character qualities and skills you have that could be a great bonus to the man you marry someday. Now is the time to start building your good qualities and becoming a great teammate.
     Why not take some time now to list how you can become a great asset to your future marriage team? Then make a separate list of ways you'd expect your husband to add to your team. Try not to list external traits, like eye color, hair color or height. Instead, focus on internal qualities like skills, personality and godly character traits. You and a friend may wish to compare lists, just for fun.

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