that you are a about to become a world-famous soccer player. You
've played soccer since the age of three, practicing for hours each
day. The star of your high school team, you were offered a full
athletic scholarship to play for your favorite university. Now,
after just one year on that team, you've been recruited by the United
States Olympic Committe to play in the upcoming Olympic games! Completely
psyched, you arrive for training and head to the field to meet the
rest of the women's soccer team.
Oddly enough, the locker room is empty,
but you quickly suit up, supposing that you are the first to arrive.
As you exit the locker room, you bump into your new head coach.
"I'm so glad you're here," she greets you. "All our hopes are pinned
on you to win us a gold medal this year."
Impressed that the coach has obviously
rated you the best player on the team, you modestly reply that if
everyone quickly learns to cooperate with and support one another,
a gold medal is defintely within reach. "When will I get to meet
the rest of the team?" you ask.
The coach looks surprised. "No, you
don't understand," she answers. "We heard about what a great player
you are, so we didn't bother asking anyone else this year--you are
Suddenly your chances of success wouldn't
be looking so good, would they?
Well, just as a sports team is needed
to win at soccer, a marriage team is designed to build your success
in the game of life. God set it up that way back in the garden of
Eden, when he saw that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone. Maybe
he saw that Adam was lonely, or maybe he wasn't impressed with Adam's
solo creativity in naming all the animals, but God decided that
Adam needed a wife--so he created Eve.
Adam was estatic until the day that
Eve said, "This fruit was SO tempting, but I just couldn't
Adam, you finish it." And in that moment, as the above verse
puts it, Eve became a wife "that maketh ashamed" (Proverbs 12:4).
Stink! Like a loving husband, Adam
listened to his wife's input, even tried things her way--and did
that ever backfire. Suddenly his fellowship with God was broken,
animals killed, weeds grown, and he and Eve were homeless. Because
sin had entered the world, things just continued to go from from
bad to worse, leading up to their first-born son later murdering
his younger brother!
We don't want to be like Eve--the
kind of teammate that brings our team down--and we don't want
to marry the kind of guy who will bring us down, but how can we
be the "crown of glory" kind of woman? The answer to this question
and all others lies in our heart. "Out of (the heart) are the
issues of life,"according to Proverbs 4:23.
If God doesn't have your heart,
take time to check out the links on the right.. They'll explain
what it means to be a purity girl, how to get started and how
to grow with those of us who have already joined another kind
of team--the purity team. If you are already a purity girl, then
take a moment to think about all of the character qualities and
skills you have that could be a great bonus to the man you marry
someday. Now is the time to start building your good qualities
and becoming a great teammate.
Why not take some time now to list
how you can become a great asset to your future marriage team?
Then make a separate list of ways you'd expect your husband to
add to your team. Try not to list external traits, like
eye color, hair color or height. Instead, focus on internal qualities
like skills, personality and godly character traits. You and a
friend may wish to compare lists, just for fun.